The Art of Loving Yourself part 2

The Art of Loving Yourself

Peak Experiences and Existing Talents

Your capabilities are very important when you are thinking about taking your dreams and making something of them. You need to think about peak experiences and existing talents you have that you can use toward the benefit of making your dreams come true. This can also help you build the confidence you need to be successful.

Your peak experiences include times in your life where you excelled. You don’t have to have won an award. These peak experiences include the best times of your life. What are some of the things you have done in your life that you really enjoyed you wish you could do again? Consider some of the accomplishments you have made. You might have built things in the past when you were younger.

Existing talents you have today can be used to help you achieve your goals. Are you good at organizing or marketing? You might be good at something you don’t even realize you are good at. These things could be making announcements about events, making phone calls, baking, gardening, and more.

You don’t have to have an expert talent. You may have the knowledge about something that you enjoy very much. Maybe you have an interest that you like to read about and this is your hidden passion. Think about something you are very knowledgeable about because you choose to be, not because you are required to be at work.

Some of the highest times in your life may be the passion you wish you had back in your life. You might have used to be a runner and always wanted to win the New York City Marathon but now you are a smoker and have written that dream off years ago. That doesn’t mean you cannot get back into shape and go for your big dream.

Everyone is good at something. If you don’t have a hobby like making candles, beaded jewellery, or working on cars on the weekends it doesn’t mean you don’t have a skill. This just means that you haven’t quite figured out what your skill is yet. You need to know what it is that interests you the most. The majority of people are very good at what they do when they enjoy it.

Using Curiosity & Creativity
One thing that is very important is curiosity because it is the base of passion. You might have understandings that are blocking you from realizing what your true passion really is. Here are many ways you can use curiosity to help you determine what your true passion is so you can use it to be successful.

Making Your Mind Active
Curiosity helps create an active mind. When someone is curious they always ask questions and seek for the answers. This causes their mind to be active most of the time. When you are curious and working the mind you are making it stronger. Your brain is like a big muscle and by working it you are making it much stronger.

Open to New Ideas
Curiosity also allows you to see how things can be at different angles. When you are set in one way things are limited because your mind is not willing to accept a different solution. It is much like your life. If you don’t see your life becoming any more successful than it already is then you won’t be. If you can open your eyes to new ideas about how things can be then you are more willing to try them.


The great thing about curiosity is that when ideas do come to your mind they will be recognized also and not ignored. When you are not curious you miss out on the important ideas because you haven’t prepared your mind to be open to them.

This also means you must be open to suggestion. Many people offer input that you might not want to hear. This input could have been the one thing that was what you needed to do in your life. Be open to suggestion by allowing yourself to ask more questions and seek different answers.

Open to New Possibilities
When your mind is open to new suggestions you will also see the bigger picture in almost every situation. Your world will be open to new worlds and possibilities because you will be curious. Normally you wouldn’t see these things like you see today.

It takes the most curious mind to have the capability to look beyond the normality of life and see things hidden underneath the surface. These are worlds and possibilities that you can make happen. You have total control of your curious mind.

Excitement
If you are bored with your life you are most likely not curious at all. Curiosity builds excitement in your life because you will want to see things. There will always be new things that attract your attention and an abundance of toys and gadgets that you enjoy too.

When you are curious you are adventurous and it is so much fun to add adventure to your life. This doesn’t mean you need to go on an African safari. It means you need to look around you and see the things that are going on a little more than you normally do. Do a little research and find out why things tick. Be curious and open to new things rather than having the same boring routine every single day.

Developing Curiosity
If you consider yourself to be curious but you are in a routine of the same thing every day and basically bored with life you are not. You are boring. You can develop curiosity to help you become a more exciting person and see the life you can have. Once you become curious and you really want to know what your life will be like when you take your passions and make them happen you will be more likely to make them happen.

Keeping an open mind is the best thing you can do when you are developing your curiosity. You have to be an open minded person. If you are set in your ways this indeed can be a very challenging place to be in. Work on seeing things from a different point of view. Think about different versions of things and how they could end up.

Another thing you need to do when you are developing your curiosity is to never take things for granted. Many people accept things for how they are. They never dig deeper and in the process they lose curiosity and excitement.

Many things are a really big deal and although it may seem simple to you it is important. Your child may want to do something that seems so ridiculous. It is about the time spent and you should never take these things for granted because they may not be available to you later. These also include wasting time in your life watching television when you could be working toward your passions.

Constantly ask questions. As you are developing your curiosity, it is important to ask questions. Who cares what people think about you? You are working on you and you need to be curios. This will allow you to get beneath the surface of things. Ask about how things work and why people are friends of each other.

Find out as much as you can about everything. Not only are you working your brain but you are learning new things and developing an understanding also. You are learning about why people do the things they do. Although you might do something one way people may choose to do it another. This is the opening of your mind you need to do.

Never label something as boring. If you are asked to do something with someone else and you think it sounds drab you need to get up and tackle it as if it is a lot of fun. Things are only boring that you make boring yourself. Labelling an activity or chore as boring completely closes the doors to something that might be your passion. In addition, you can think of ways to take that boring activity and make it fun.

Look at learning as something fun. There are many things about your passion you might need to learn. You might have put off your passion because it will require you to take a few courses. It is very common for people to think they are too old to learn new things and they don’t follow a passion because of this. You are never too old to learn new things. The best thing you can do is to continue learning by reading as much as you can and learning new things.

You should never put a passion off because of learning. What you need to do is tackle the learning as a fun experience that is going to help you achieve a goal in the long run. Being curious is learning. You are in a lifelong class and learning new things every single day. So if you have to take a class or read a book to learn something new, tackle it with a new attitude of excitement and fun. You will learn much more than you would if you thought the learning was a burden.

Reading new things is another way to feed your curiosity and develop it. You might like to focus on just one thing but you should be open to as many different topics and things as possible when it comes to reading. This can help you build your curiosity even further. If you do find you like to focus on just one thing then you might have found your passion.

Building Creativity
Do you think you are not a creative person? You actually might think you are creative and really not be at all. If you want to live out your passions and make them a reality then you need to be creative. There are many ways you will need to creatively tackle barriers and make things happen. The more creative you are the more successful you will be in your life. Here are a few ways you can build creativity in your life.

Make creativity a game in everything you do. When you come upon a circumstance you should give yourself the rules. Think about the objectives and any obstacles or strategic constraints that might be a problem. The more creative you are with these answers the better you are.

When you are creative you also have to set goals. Goals go with deadlines and you need to set a deadline with activities. When you attach a deadline with tasks it actually makes them more exciting. You also won’t procrastinate as much either.

Self expression is a very important aspect also. You need to find every opportunity to express yourself that you can in a creative fashion. When you look for opportunities to express yourself you are being creative in the process.
Expressing yourself can be in the way you display dinner on the plate. You might choose to dress up the meal with cranberries and garnishes. You may change the way you do a presentation at work and completely changing the style from the way your work does it. View every activity as a way to express yourself and be creative. 

Allow more focus in your life. The best things you can do for yourself is eliminating distractions and noise when you focus on an activity. When you focus on an activity really hard you will see opportunities and qualities about it. If you really cannot pay attention to something then it really is boring. Again, find ways to make it exciting.

When you are working on activities that seem like they are boring then you should view them as smaller pieces of a bigger picture. You need to see the big picture of things and every aspect of an activity.

Walk around your home
If you are having a hard time figuring out what your true passion is it may be sitting right in front of you. You may have collections of items like figurines, magazines, hobbies you like to do on the weekends and more. Take a look around your home and see if some of the decorations are a clue to what your true passion is. You might be surprised you have surrounded yourself with items and not even realized it.

Barriers
Many people are very clear what their passion is but they have external barriers that are in the way. If you have barriers that are stopping you from living out your dreams then you need to get past them. You have full control of external barriers and you can do something about them.

People
The biggest barrier to someone not fulfilling their passion and dreams is another person. It is common for someone to add input that is hard to listen to because you feel like you are being made fun of. A person may ridicule the idea, think it is silly, and much more. The last thing you need to listen to is an outside opinion if it is negative.

If you have a passion you need to surround yourself with supportive people. Someone who is not supportive is not who you want around because they will only bring you down. That is, if you let them.

Many people have a spouse that is not supportive of a passion because they think the idea is ridiculous or they would be embarrassed of what your passion is. This type of person you don’t need around you. If you are making a decision of your spouse over your passion then you are restricting yourself. It is important to make it clear to your spouse that you are passionate about doing something in particular and they need to be supportive of you.

When you have the right support you can do anything. When family members are not supportive emotionally then it can make things difficult. The best thing you can do is let them know you are fulfilling your dreams and they will not stand in your way. It is your life and you need to be satisfied with it when the time comes. People who are not supportive you may have to shut out for a while until they see that it truly makes you happy.

Money
Money is one of the biggest barriers that cause people not to move forward with a passion. You might be an excellent mechanic and you want to start your own shop but you have never moved forward with the idea because of the cost. Money can be overcome.

There are many ways to get money together to start your own business or live out a passion that might cost a lot of money. The best thing you can do is begin cutting costs in your life where you don’t need them.

Many of the ways you can cut costs in your life include not eating out everyday for lunch at work. Pack a lunch. Consider taking the bus and not driving in everyday so you don’t have to costs for gas and parking. Think about many of the additional expenses you have that you really don’t need. You might buy tons of extra things at the grocery store.

you don’t even eat but it happens because you always go grocery shopping when you are hungry.

Every time you save money you would have normally spent on something else like a lunch at work you need to put the money away. Open a savings account or buy a lock box at home and put the money in it. Don’t count the money or ever get into it. Just remember that every time you are adding to the box you are getting closer to achieving your passion.

One thing to remember is that by being creative with your life you will most likely find other ways you can make additional money to put aside for your endeavour. You also may find a way to start your dream without any start-up costs. There are many ways to start your own business if it means you begin in your home first. If you love to make aromatherapy candles and you have always dreamed of owning your own shop then you can start a business online first. You may even find your online business is more successful than a brick and mortar store would ever be.

Money is an obstacle that can be overcome. It is the most common excuse people use for why they cannot live out their dreams. You should never fear for your survival. In addition, if you have a supportive spouse they will help with the financial burden while you are getting started so you can live out your dreams. In most cases, the financial payout in the end will be much better.

Time
Another reason many people do not live out their passions and make them happen is because they say they do not have the time. This could be close to true if you commute to work hours away and get home late at night. It is common for many people to be slaves to their work and never have time even for their family. This makes them feel selfish when they want to take time out for themselves to live out a passion.

If time is a problem you must find a way to make time in your life to do what it is that you want to do. You might consider waking up an hour or two earlier every day or staying up just a little bit later. Remember, sleep is important for happiness and a good day so you cannot cut too much into your sleep.
You might get an hour for your lunch hour and can bring crafts with you to work or your laptop to work. This way you can work on your passion an hour each day. Finding the time is very important.

Time wasted is very common for people who claim they do not have the time to live out their passions. You might spend hours every night watching television and not doing very much on the weekends either. This time might be your relaxing time because you work so hard during the week.

It is time to start cutting out all of the time wasted in your life going out with the guys, watching television, and doing things that are not productive. You do have time to get started. You just need to manage your time better. Remember that you don’t have to complete an entire project once you get started. If your project is hours and you have…
an extra hour each day then you can do a little bit at a time. This will allow you to have something to look forward to each day also.

Job
If your current job is the reason you cannot live out your passions because you are currently a slave to your employer then you should find a new employer. If you are not doing what you love to do in the first place then it won’t matter if you find another employer.

Your job may be your livelihood but you need to work toward being happy with your life and successful. When your job is the reason you cannot be happy you won’t even be successful at your job. You won’t move up and you will despise it.

It may be very hard to wake up every morning to go to work each day. Don’t you want to do something that you enjoy waking up in the morning each day for? You can and you have full control over this.

Fears
Fear is another one of the biggest reasons people do not move forward with their passions and make their dreams reality. You can overcome fears and you need to overcome them. By the power of curiosity you will be more open to suggestions and know that there can be a better outcome than what your mind has limited you to believe.

You might have a fear of failing and this is why you have not moved forward with your passions. If you fear failing it is natural. It is like learning how to ride a bicycle or learning something new. Not many people start something new or take on a passion and immediately are successful. There are many fears and failures along the way you will experience. You have to pick yourself back up and keep it going.

Being afraid to fail is normal and you don’t have to let it stop you. When you fail you need to take it on as a learning experience so you can grow from it. Failure can be turned into a positive experience.

You might even have a fear of success. That might sound funny but many people are afraid to succeed. They have problems saving money and as soon as they start saving enough to start their dream they spend the money on something they don’t even need. Later they are kicking themselves and begin the saving process all over again.

You should never be afraid to succeed. This fear is natural and many people have a self esteem low enough they don’t believe they are good enough to be successful. You can be as successful as you really believe you can be. Don’t let your fears of what could be getting in the way.

Learning
Learning is another obstacle for many people. You might have finished school 20 years ago and figure you are done with learning anything new. This is silly and you are always capable of learning even when you are on your deathbed at 80 years old. You need to take on the entire learning process as a fun and exciting thing. You will be living out your dreams soon and if it requires you to obtain a certification or learn something then you need to look at this as a stepping stone toward your goals.

There are many obstacles that you can say are the reason for you not living out your dream. These are only temporary barriers that you are using as an excuse for not moving forward. You are in control of barriers and your mind.

You have control of the people in your life who are supportive or not. You have control over your job or the ability to creatively find ways to fund your endeavors. Barriers can creatively be overcome to get started with living out your passion. You need to stand up and say no more to barriers that are in your way and start living your dreams.

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Mark Khan
Life Coach / Inter-Networker
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